Adventures of the Lesbo - Femmeasaurus!
I’m not going to lie. It’s hard to sit down and try to come up with a brilliant idea for a column when it feels like everything around you is crashing down and you’re trying to scramble your way out of your self-made trap. All the while, you don’t want to complain because you know no one wants to hear how you got to this tough place or how you plan to get out of it. Everyone just wants to hear that everything is all good and you’re just bummed out only because it is raining that day. Anything too heavy, most people will panic that they asked because they just set themselves up for the “let’s be a good friend and listen intently” role. I don’t want to put you lovely readers through that, because you didn’t come here trying to be my support person. You came here to be entertained; to have your curiosity infatuated as my girlfriend eloquently put it for me.
I basically took on way to much during this half of the year. Typically I can handle heaps of things and I love it. I thrive in situations when I’m needed, when I’m volunteering, learning, socializing, organizing, leading, helping, having fun, being musical, working part time with important people, and much more. Instead, I fell down a set of stairs at my University and have since been dealing with a lot of medical problems to do with my back. I think that put a damper on my mood and all of a sudden things started adding up, getting put on the back burner, and now I don’t know where the start is or if there is an end in sight. I’ve let all my learning and studying for school slide in the meantime. So yes, I feel clouded and lost, but the thing is this isn’t me. Don’t judge me here and now. Judge me when I get my groove back. Haha. I guess this should lead me on to the topic. Hmm.
WOW! Proposition 8 got overturned and was deemed unconstitutional by a Republican Californian judge. That is pretty awesome, I must say. I’m assuming gays now have the right to marry in CA again? I’m going to take this opportunity to talk about LGTB rights in New Zealand. If you are a lesbian and you live in NZ, you’ve got it pretty good. Although I’m sure the gay scenes here may be small as compared to other counties like the USA, hence because NZ is a small country anyway. If you want to get out there, you can and you can have a lot of fun doing it. There are just enough clubs, cafes, bars, social groups and organizations to quench your thirst. In New Zealand gay couples do have the right to get a civil union and here that gives you all the same rights as a straight couple, to my knowledge. As for marriage, we don’t have that yet and I’m not sure how close we are, but no one really makes a huge fuss over it yet because like I said, we’ve got it pretty sweet. New Zealand is very laidback and I think we just are happy for what we have. I’m sure there are a lot of people trying to get it for us, but we don’t feel like there is a huge injustice to us here in the first place I suppose. There are a lot of LGTB MP’s (members of Parliament) and politicians working directly with the leading groups of Parliament. There is even a Rainbow Labour group; Labour is the more democratic party in NZ. So an entire division of one of the largest Government parties is made up of LGTB people and supporters. Sara and I are also legitimately members of this party. In addition to all this, there is a LGTB select committee for Parliament. Now unlike lobbyist in America who try very hard to get their ideas heard, these select committees HAVE TO BE listened to and work directly with the government in power.
In summary, I would like to say that in my years that I’ve lived in New Zealand I’ve been very pleased with all the equality I’ve faced. When I moved here and had to apply for visiting and work visas the NZ government honoured my relationship with Sara as a partnership real enough to be put under the “partnership scheme”. Also, when I was applying for the big one, my New Zealand Permanent Residence, I got to file under the partnership scheme again. Permanent Residence in New Zealand basically gives you all the same rights as a citizen and after five years you are then able to apply for citizenship (which will give you a NZ passport). All we had to do was provide proof of our relationship and all the other basic criteria of course and I got my PR in record time of three months. Even straight, married couples have to provide just as much evidence of their relationship as we did. So far, we’ve felt no real injustice that is worth mentioning. One of the previous gay Labour MP was the Minister for Education, so I’m assuming there isn’t a huge issue with people being gay in the education workforce.
New Zealand still has a lot to do and there is always, always room for improvement, but I think it’s a pretty amazing place to live in the meantime while all the other countries are sorting out their shit. Pardon me. Everyone deserves to be treated like a person, to have their relationships observed as any other, to be heard. And we need to remember that it’s not going to happen is we just sit around and watch it. If Sara and I want something to change in New Zealand, we are going to have to be among the ones who have to stand up and do something about it. I commend anyone who is actively fighting for our rights. It’s a tough fight, but it’s for the better of everyone.
Until next time.
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